Comparison: The Ultimate Thief.


Hey friends, todays post is one I hold dear to my heart and something I, like many of you will have struggled with on all kinds of levels. 

She steals strength, belief, self-love, and self-esteem: yup, its comparison.

Why is it that we, without even thinking compare our own lives, jobs, circumstances, even bodies to  other people (+ mostly those we don't even know!). 

I worry at the number of times I have to stop myself when I flick through someones Instagram feed or blog and think why can't I...? Oh wait. Know what I'm talking about? And yes, in some cases it can be natural to aspire - but theres a difference between being inspired by someone/something and comparing to it.

I'M HERE TO SAY THIS: BEING COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR LIFE IS OK.

In a world where everything is constantly changing, theres always an upgraded model of technology better than the last, always a new item of clothing that suddenly becomes the new wardrobe must have. We've got allow ourselves to just get comfy where we're at. Love where your life is at right this second. Move yourself, empower yourself and inspire yourself onto the next thing. Just don't use other people (unless its genuinely beneficial + positive).

Right now, I am comfortable with my life: sure, there are things I'd like to work on and definitely things I aspire to but I am in the position where I am rest assured that my life is where it needs to be. No where else.

 In four moths I'll be a wife, I'll have my own home to take care of, new responsibilities and a new family. Changes are on the horizon and theres nothing I love more than to smile at the thought of my life taking this significant turn. I'm sure at this life stage I'll look at comparison in a new light, from a totally different perspective. I'll have new things to feel the need to compare to, completely seperate from the High School low self-esteem days. But at every life stage comes this new and improved responsibility to sustain your joy for life - leaving comparison well and truly behind.

ITS NOT A LIGHT SWITCH

Oh, how I wish it could be. It will force you to be brave, brutal and ultimately disciplined with yourself. But once you've told yourself that enough is enough and really meant it, I promise you that you'll see your life and yourself in a completely different way. That definitely won't be the battle won - we all slip up, but its more than a start at a more positive way of life.

My biggest tip of all, and the best bit of advice I have ever received (if you leave with anything after reading this little post, I pray you leave with this): Instead of comparing yourself to others, compare yourself to yourself.

See how much you've grown,
how much you've changed,
your weaknesses that have become strengths,
how close you've come to your goals,
where to next?

This habit has the benefit of creating gratitude and appreciation for yourself and your life. And ultimately it will swell your JOY for life.

Ems xo


8 comments

  1. Omg. #storyofmylife #thestruggleisreal

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    1. Its tough isn't it? At least we know we all go through it so supporting each other is a given xo

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  2. Oh my gosh... I totally relate with this em.... 9months ago as u know I was not the person I am today and because off who I am now I only compare myself to the old me.... and my next step is driving.... loved reading this huni xoxo

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    1. Aw thanks so much Linds! I really appreciate that! I know, you have come such a long way, it's such an inspiration! My next step is passing my driving too so we can struggle through that together ;) xo

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  3. LOVE this post. So inspiring and such truth to your words!!
    I hate comparing but its a habit that can't be controlled sometimes. As long as we realize it as it is happening and try to change it, then I think we are on the right track! We are aware of it so we know what we must do to avoid it or at least accept the fact. Really enjoyed reading this. Thank you for sharing xoxo :)

    ~ Nicole
    www.nicolevaidosa.com
    www.instagram.com/nicolevaidosa

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    1. Hey Nicole! Thanks so much, that means a lot. We all struggle with it, and its a tough habit to beat but sometimes all we need is to discipline ourselves in the smallest way and it can make the biggest difference :)

      Emily xox

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  4. Great post and totally relatable. Thanks for sharing!
    ~Samantha
    http://goldcoastgirlblog.com

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    1. Hey girl! Thanks so much for reading, loving your blog!

      - Emily xo

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