Thoughts on Friendship.


Hey guys! So today I'm joined by @huggleapp - the app that brings people together - to bring you my thoughts on friendship and what my chums mean to me. Huggle is a social app that helps you to discover and connect with poeple who go the places you go. It's a wonderful app for making new friends and meerting like-minded people. You can download it here.

So, friendship.. Basically this means those girls 'n' guys who have supported me throughout life and heard my heart; I've laughed with you, I've cried with you and I've shared my journey with you. You know who you are.

These photos are a couple of my favourites one from a weekend trip with friends, and funny times with my girl Hollyanne when we blogged together a year ago. Friends from afar, I may not have up-to-date photos of us, but I do love you.

Friendship is different to different people. For me, it was a tough subject when growing up - I had always hoped, prayed and wished for that girl gang that would come over for a sleepover at last minute to cheer me up, but I never really had a group that stuck. I suppose in part, its due to my dads job having been so faith driven, we moved wherever he felt called - resulting in my enrolment to five different schools in three different places: Liverpool, Cambridge and Northern Ireland. 

What struck me was not how many ''friendships'' I lost but those few friendships that really stuck around. Some I have grown with closely through university and church here in my home Belfast, and others who have shared in my life even though they may live far away. Friendship to me has become both of physical importance - coffee dates, dinners, taking time out to just chill together and hear each other - and simply emotional importance by talking on the phone and good old facebook.

For years I struggled with accepting myself, my teen years were hard and I hated the school days. But once I opened my heart to what God had to offer me, I was blown away by how my opinion of myself changed so dramatically. Acceptance takes time, and in a way we all go through this at some stage in life - it really is only when we accept ourselves fully that we can allow ourselves to attract and deeply connect with similar souls, those poeple who truly share in the tiny details of your life and experiences.

To me, friendship is the ability to sit with each other in the darkest of moments as well as really celebrate during good times.

Sure, I haven't always been the best of friends; I have been the one to forget to call back, or cancel a much needed catch up last minute, possibly forget a birthday, but I have also been that friend to sit up all night and hear my friends heart before me, tried to give my best advice and empathise, and cried and celebrated with them. It's doesnt have to be perfect.

Friendship is about paying attention, devoting time and unconditional love to a small number of poeple who mean the world to you. It's not about how many "friends" you have, but how many friendships you are willing to invest your time into, and them, you - those are the vital ones. They're real.

 I know that the word friendship may not mean the same thing to all of us, but I'd love to hear your thoughts on the importance of friendship to you, and what it has meant in your life.

So, to my friends..
Thank you, you beautiful poeple.
Em xo

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  1. Love reading your thoughts on friendship! It is definitely one of the most valuable treasures that we as humans can hold. We need people and we need friends to share life with and lift each other up.

    <3 a happy blur
    ahappyblur.blogspot.com

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    1. Thank you so much Katlin! Yes amen to that, friendship is such an important part of life!

      - Em xo

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  2. Once again loved this. My opinion on friendship is no matter if u see each other everyday or hardly ever being able to lift the phone and unload without being judged, bumping into each other randomly and hugging and laughing like uve never been apart. Being able to give someone advice without offending. All my love lindsay xoxo

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    1. Hey lindsay! Thank you so much, I totally agree with that - friendship is so much more than just hanging out, it's on a much deeper level. Thank you :)

      - Em xo

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  3. Once again loved this. My opinion on friendship is no matter if u see each other everyday or hardly ever being able to lift the phone and unload without being judged, bumping into each other randomly and hugging and laughing like uve never been apart. Being able to give someone advice without offending. All my love lindsay xoxo

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  4. This was so beautifully written, I'm not the best at making new friends but when I have good ones, I surely know it. Much much love - Sydney

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    1. Hey Sydney! Thank you so much.. Also loving all these new bloggy friends I'm making through this chat we all have! You're all awesome!

      - Em xo

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  5. Loved this em, such inspiring words and I know from peraonal experiences with you that you are a great friend, lovely blogto read as well xxxxxx love ya em xx

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    1. Hey girl thanks so much! Tons of love!

      - Em xo

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  6. Great words Em! Always valued our friendship that started all those years ago!

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    1. Thank you girlie! Same to you, its a precious thing to have friends you hardly ever see but just know they'll always be there for you.

      - Em xo

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  7. I love your thoughts on friendship, and its so true, it doesn't matter how many but the quality of the friendships you do have :) Have you used Huggle much?

    -Taylor
    www.greysuede.com

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